The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
The honest* truth about having multiples in and around Southampton
*This may or may not be skewed by a lack of sleep, fondness for thinking positively about really rubbish stuff and a general forgetfulness which comes with being a parent!
Being a parent is hard. Being a parent to more than one child is hard. Being a parent to multiples is hard. This isn’t going to be all positive but then again, it most certainly isn’t all negative. This will be a collection of memories and thoughts which cover all aspects of being a parent or carer to multiples (multiples is the generic term for twins, triplets, quads etc etc). Some will be funny, some will be thought-provoking, all will be true (some may be fuzzy due to length of time since they occurred or lack of sleep), however all will be the individual experiences of a local Southampton multiple parent.
Please remember that as every person is different, every experience of being a parent or carer to multiples is unique and whilst you may or may not find some advice within these words, or guidance, this is not designed to be true to form for everyone and everything. If you have genuine concerns about a certain aspect of caring for multiples, please approach an appropriate professional for example; Midwife, GP, Consultant Obstetrician, Consultant Paediatrician, Pharmacist, Health Visitor, Nurse, Physiotherapist, Occupational Therapist, Speech Therapist, Teacher, Teaching Assistant etc
You may also find some useful information on TAMBA: https://www.tamba.org.uk/
Twinline is open every day from 10am to 1pm and from 7pm to 10pm on 0800 138 0509 (Freephone) or email firstname.lastname@example.org
With thanks to the parents and carers who were happy to contribute to this collection.
Finding out you are pregnant….and it’s more than one in there!
IVF and surrogacy
Choosing a new car
Choosing a buggy
Choosing a baby bag
Getting everything ready
Life whilst pregnant: pregnant with multiples + a toddler
pregnant with singleton + toddler twins
Losing one along the way?
Term birth – planned/emergency section
Term birth – induction
Term birth – natural
Term birth – hypnobirthing
Staying in the hospital
Breastfeeding* non-judgemental – do what is best for you and babies
Bottle feeding* non-judgemental – do what is best for you and babies
Expressing* non-judgemental – do what is best for you and babies
Getting out and about
Life with a disabled child
Life as a single parent
Life as a same-sex parent
Being an “older” parent
Being a “younger” parent
Having a social life